Child-Friendly Parenting

An Excerpt from 7 De-stressing Strategies for Effective Living by Tiffany Tyndall — Half of Chapter 1: Write through it

We need to think about why we might be so stressed out.  What helps facilitate the thinking process is to write.  Writing is thinking.  Focus the writing so that you aren’t just writing about anything that pops into your head.  Write in a singular vein while allowing yourself to explore thoughts that relate back to it.  WhyWhy might I feel this way?  What happened that triggered me feeling this way?  How is this stress that I feel now the same as or different from the stress I have felt before?

Giving ourselves the freedom to explore our thoughts and our feelings on paper is sometimes the thing that will show us the way out of our stress tunnel.  When we feel trapped, hopeless, confused, or shameful, not being able to understand why only compounds the intricacies of what we are feeling and going through.

Sometimes, it’s enough to know that we feel a certain way.  The why might come later or not at all.  When it comes to stress, many of us have learned to live with large amounts of it in our life since we were young, so by the time we acknowledge adverse effects of it (or get to a place where we don’t want to feel so stressed anymore), there is so much stress that has accumulated in our life, that trying to figure out and understand why for every single, little thing might take us the rest of our life to accomplish—which is a fine goal, but in my opinion, the better goal is not just to understand, but to recover, heal, move on, and move beyond the stress.  Understanding, nonetheless, is a piece of the whole process, so on some level, we must seek to understand ourselves and our lives and our history more fully if we hope to get better.

So when we write, it doesn’t have to be pretty.  We can write longhand or type.  The point is to simply write.  Write through it all.  Write through the pain, the confusion, the hurt, the stress.  Whatever is bothering you, write it out.  This is not for anyone else to see or read or hear or know.  This is only for you, in this moment.  You can even throw it away or delete it all when you’re done.  You can re-read it if you want or not.  You can keep it or not.  The purpose of writing out your stress is to see it for what it is.  To get it out of your head and out of your body and onto paper so that you can more objectively analyze it.

Writing helps you to think.  Writing is thinking.  Writing allows you to analyze your thoughts and to think about solutions to any problems you may have.  Many times, writing gives you a path out and shows you the next step that needs to be taken.  Writing stirs our soul and helps us to get to the deep down issues that we may not really be able to approach without putting words to paper and drawing them out.

7 De-stressing Strategies for Effective Living by Tiffany Tyndall is available for purchase here.