When we are feeling stress, it helps to talk about it—to verbalize it orally somehow. Most people do this naturally, but if it doesn’t come easily to you or if you’d rather not talk to another person about what might be bothering you, then use paper to have a dialogue with a created “other.” Talking through the stress isn’t just about our talking. It’s about hearing what someone else has to say about what we’ve said. It’s about seeing things from another person’s view point. It’s about gaining perspective.
So if we can’t bring ourselves to say anything out loud to another human being about the things that are weighing us down, it might help to use writing in a creative way to expand how we are thinking about things. What might someone else say if they heard us say this about this particular concern? What do we want someone else to say? What do we know that someone else is going to say that we aren’t going to like but that we know we need to hear? This exercise may be more helpful than simply sayings words out loud because, as writing does for us, it makes us think. However, this (how we don’t need to always think as much when we’re simply talking) is why it can be helpful to simply talk to someone else—it doesn’t require so much from our brain all the time. We can just talk.
Talking to someone else doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out thing. It can be one line or two. It doesn’t have to be an entire conversation (but it can be). Talking to another person about what’s bothering you is about sharing your heart and opening up—to not weigh someone else down but to allow for true soul-level intimacy, especially if you’re already in a relationship with someone you trust.