Consolation Thoughts

Just Do the Best You Can

When worry creeps up on you and makes you wonder if you’re doing more harm than good in your children’s lives (what a lie!), just remember that you are doing the best you can do.  If you know that there are things that you need to work on, then keep working on them.  Don’t give up.  Just do the best you can.  Truly do the very best you can.  You will hear people say that, including your own parents who may not be wanting to take responsibility for something (“I did the best that I could” or “I’m doing the best that I can”)—which is fine to say—but each of us must take inventory of our own selves and ask, “Am I really doing the best that I can?”  I’m not talking about being perfect or living up to someone else’s standards for us.  I’m talking about really and truly trying our best.  Really and truly acknowledging when we’ve messed up and really and truly doing the best we can to make amends and to move forward in a positive way.  It’s not about not making mistakes.  It’s about taking responsibility for ourselves when we do make mistakes.  It’s about starting again.  And living with a clear conscience.  It’s about putting forth the effort.  Putting in the time.  Putting in the energy.  Really going at it to make a change that needs to be made.  If we’re doing that—no matter how many times we mess up in the process—then we are doing enough.  We are facing the right direction.  It may be one step forward and two steps back for a while.  But if we keep facing the right direction, then eventually it will be one step forward and only one step back.  And soon after, two steps forward and one step back.  And before we know it, we’ll make more progress than we will have setback.  It will take time.  And it will take some effort.  But it will happen.  If we just keep doing the best we can.