It’s true. The most important thing you can give your children is you. A healthy you, that is. It is truly a gift because not too many parents are pulling up too many layers (think: onions) to get to the root of whatever it is that is holding them back from being their best self. There is so much that we have absolutely no control over. But we do have control over our choices (to an extent). We can choose whether to get help for the problems we struggle with. If getting outside help isn’t your thing, then we always have the capacity to help ourselves by bringing outside help to us. There is so much more information that is available to us now than it ever was in the past. If you know how to read, then the power is in your hands. Healthiness doesn’t start and end with physical health—although, it’s an important part of the big picture and will often touch other areas of your life that need adjusting. So in addition to getting physically healthy, it’s up to us to also get emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy. Making time to feel, think, and pray will help us on our way. If we shut out these internal channels, then we are setting ourselves up for being all clogged up in the heart, mind, and spirit. And then no wonder that we have trouble forming strong, trusting relationships with our children and our spouse/co-parent. We’ve got to take care of ourselves if we want to give our children (and others in our lives, like our spouse/co-parent) the most important gift that is ours to give them.