Don’t let up doing things well—and encouraging your children to do things well, too. This is not about being overly critical (no “criticalness” is needed, in the negative sense—it’s good to have a critical mind and think about all sides of things, but being “critical” in a negative and cynical sense is counterproductive and rather hurtful to yourself and others). This is about aiming for excellence. We might not always hit the mark (standards change for practical reasons once children are part of your life). But it’s helpful for our daily work-care-and-nurturing drive to maintain perspective on where we’re heading or at least wanting to head eventually.