We want to hang on for life, be we know that this is not good—especially if what we are hanging on to isn’t reciprocating. We have a family and home to tend to. We can’t keep obsessing over those that we will never be able to help or change. You are a parent only to your own children. If your “friends” need a parent, that is not your responsibility. You owe only acceptance and care to yourself and your own family. This will most likely sound narrow if we are used to caring about the whole world and everyone in it. But if we want to stay healthy, we need to remember that we have to let go of what is not ours to carry. It is the compassionate thing to do to let old friends go if the reciprocity isn’t there. Compassionate for them and compassionate for us. If the reciprocity is there, then maybe a different mindset is needed, one related to pruning our lives to reflect our priorities if we are finding that there are too many people putting a drain on our life. But as of now, when things are rather one-sided, it’s quite simple to see what the course of action is. We must learn to let go of the people and things that we cannot help. It’s the only way that we can a) move on and b) make room for better friends as we walk this often lonely road of parenting our young children.