Get comfortable saying these words: I need, I want, I prefer, I’d rather. Variations? I’d like, I think, I see, I hear, I notice, I wonder. As your assertiveness grows and you become better at speaking up and out for yourself, for others, and for the truth, you will find that these words will feel more and more comfortable—to the point where you will wonder how in the world you were ever able to function before having learned how to use them. We assert ourselves for the sake of helping to keep ourselves emotionally healthy and also for the sake of helping ourselves become more effective at parenting.