You don’t have to feel bad for having real needs and wants—and for wanting to have those needs and wants met. But we can accomplish the “getting our needs and wants met” task without resorting to nasty methods. Or even by using a nasty sounding voice. We can still be calm and sweet and patient and genuine about it. All the while being effective at getting what we need and want. But it will require participating in the dance of vulnerability. We will need to let down our guard in order to accomplish this. And this is the crux of this journey.