Consolation Thoughts

Stay Focused

Stay focused on one thing at a time.  If you’re doing three things at once (or 10), then you’re over-working yourself and can’t really expect to easily maintain a genuinely serene kind of composure.  If you’re the type of person who feeds off of having way too much to do and trying to do it all at once, consider that possibility that that’s an unhealthy way to live.  Why do you think you feel the need to have a million things going at the same time?  Try to probe into the origin of where the addiction to busy-ness comes from.  You will find that there may be an underlying fear that prompts you to over-work—fear that you aren’t good enough unless you earn it, prove it, produce it.  Fear that you’ll lose the edge you feel by staying ahead of the game, fear that you’ll become lazy and unproductive like people you may have known or observed previously in your life.  (A slothful existence is one of the great wastes of a human life.)  Or fear that you just won’t get it all done.  Fear that you will fall behind or won’t achieve what’s required or that you won’t ever be what you’re trying to be.  (Remember that our “who” is only found in God and that our “do” is an expression of our worship and gratitude to our Maker and Savior.)  Maybe it’s not fear at all but a simple mindlessness.  We just aren’t thinking about staying focused.  Whatever it is, conquer it by acknowledging it and then consciously taking on one thing at a time.  Not everything at once.  If you never get to everything, then so be it.  But you can rest assured that the few things you do get to will be gotten to, and that’s an accomplishment in and of itself.

This kind of focus is valuable as we walk along our parenting path because if we are becoming unhinged by all the tasks before us (and they are many, as any parent knows well), then we can’t really do the best job we are capable of doing as it relates to taking care of our children and maintaining a nurturing and life-giving connection with our children.  If we are not at peace with ourselves, then how can we expect our children to learn peace-with-oneself from us?