The good kind of guilt is guilt that prompts you to do something good and right—for the sake of goodness and right-ness. All other kinds of guilt may prompt you to do something that appears to be good and right, but the motives behind the non-good kind of guilt are often less than good and right. Usually, the non-good kind of guilt is cloaked in an urgency to make things look a certain way without really caring if they are through-and-through that way. We must care more about the way things actually are than whether or not they seem to be—especially as it relates to our family and our children and our marriage and the healthiness of our relationships with our children and spouse. Anyone else who is not our children or our spouse gets second billing, if any at all.