It is easy to fall into the mindset of letting our kids determine what kind of day it’s going to be. But if we do this, then we will never really be in control of ourselves or our moods or our day. It’s a false kind of measurement to gauge our day by how our kids acted or by how we necessarily feel about things. It sure rarely feels awesome to do all the work that needs to be done day after day and then to have to deal with all the stuff that comes with parenting—but what we can feel awesome about is knowing that we have handled ourselves well in difficult situations. It does feel good to not be swayed by externals, to stay in control of ourselves and our even-keeled-ness and our day as a whole. So it is imperative that we decide now that we are going to have good days instead of waiting until the day seems like a good day or feels like a good day or turns out to be a good day. We are the ones who determine whether the day will be good or not. It doesn’t matter what’s in the day or what we are up against. We are the ones who have the deciding vote.