“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37 ESV).
Being a stay-at-home mom can take everything out of us! For as much as we have a hand in the schedule of our days, there is a whole lot that we simply cannot control. For instance, we might have the most air-tight routine down at bedtime and at wake time, but somehow, one of our kids (usually the youngest—I have three children, ages 7, 5 and 3) will still surprise us by waking up before our own crack-of-dawn alarm goes off and will stay awake even though more sleep is clearly needed by all! Our kids keep us on our toes, that is for sure. We can try as we might to make things as predictable as possible, but there will usually be at least a day or two in there each week that throws us off and leaves us scratching our head (and pulling out our hair).
So what does this mean for women who are Christians who aren’t supposed to get all bent out of shape just because their job as a loving stay-at-home mom and wife doesn’t always smoothly? Do we shirk the Christian part of our identity and complain all day and yell at everyone at every opportunity and hold on to the bitterness so that we have something to show for our obstacles (which include more than just children who won’t sleep when we want them to!)? Do we deny the loving mom part of our identity and heap criticism and guilt upon our children for the mere fact that they are indeed children? Do reject the loving wife part of our identity and get mad at our husbands for not fully understanding what our life is like day in and day out? Do we betray the stay-at-home part of our identity and blame ourselves for not returning to our career fields (if we haven’t already jumped ship and done so!)?
What this means for women who are Christians who have committed their lives to the job of being a loving stay-at-home mom and wife is that when things don’t go smoothly, we fix our eyes on God—all the more intently! We anchor ourselves in him—all the more! We cry out for mercy and grace—all the more unabashedly! We must truly believe that God is greater than our obstacles if we are ever going to get to a place where these day-to-day hiccups don’t derail us (even a little bit). So how do we truly believe that God is greater?
The words of Jesus ring clear and true: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37 ESV). How do we love anyone with all that we are? Sweet surrender, that’s how. We must let go of everything and let God hold us and help us. Let us love God with all our heart—and may God fill us with his love so that we love our children and our husband with all our heart, too. Every single moment of every single day.
Prayer of Response:
Dear God, Help me to love you with everything I am. Show me how to surrender myself to you, especially in the hard moments of my day and night. Pour out your love into my heart so that I can love my children and my husband fully and without reserve—even when things aren’t going my way! Help me to stay anchored in you. Thank you that you are my rock. Amen.
Confession of Faith:
I love the Lord my God with all my heart and with all my soul and with all my mind (Matthew 22:37 ESV).