I know, I know. We don’t need another book telling us how to raise happy children (or do we?).
But what we do need is different voices contributing helpful thoughts as we go about finding our way through the process of nurturing well-balanced human beings.
Happiness, healthiness, and groundedness are all part of that equation, so what I wanted to do is to make available some of my experiences in those areas and to share my way of thinking to achieve those outcomes in my family so that others, like you, can be encouraged on your own journey of effective parenting.
So, on with the book description.
Child-Friendly Parenting: Growing a Well-Functioning Family in a Home Environment That’s Good for Kids (No Matter What Your Home or Family Looks Like) explores different aspects of parenting children in a way that contributes positively to their emotional health, happiness, and overall well-being.
Addressing topics like assertiveness, self-regulation, and optimism, these writings aim to help parents become more confident and effective as we build trusting relationships with our children.
Furthermore, the kind of parenting qualities that bring about the good kind of growth in children are the nurturing kind, so an emphasis is given to developing positive character traits in ourselves (as a way to model what we want our children to eventually adopt for themselves), like patience, kindness, empathy, joy, and gentleness.
Other subjects are covered, such as handling meltdowns with composure, rejecting spanking as effective discipline, resisting victimhood in parenthood, breaking the cycle of parentification, considering the necessity of parental divorce (i.e., cutting ties with one’s own parent or parents) and seeking to achieve and maintain a power balance as well as emotional equilibrium in our family relationships.
In these writings, you will find reminders of what often marks a child-friendly atmosphere: encouragement, creativity, freedom, reasonable boundaries and consequences, choice, being heard, and acceptance. You will also find affirmations, scripts, scenarios, and steps—but keep in mind that these are offered as examples of how to make progress in the path of child-friendly parenting and that each of us must find our own way through the woods (though we don’t have to do it alone, per se). In other words, what worked for me might not work for you, but I still wanted to share these things in case they spark an idea that turns out to be useful to you.
The idea of “child-friendly parenting” is less about being a program or a system imposed on static goals and more about being a framework and an approach to a fluid and open process of growth, positive change, and self-development. What we are seeking to accomplish is to develop the skills we need as parents to be effective (in the long-term and the short-term) as our child’s main nurturer.
Although this was written primarily with parents of young children in mind, many of these concepts can extend to strengthening the parent-child relationship at any age and stage of development. Understanding that relationship is first, we can proceed to brave anything and everything we come up against, no matter who we are, what we’ve come out of, or who our children are.