It’s easy to think that because we are the parent that what we say, do, think, and feel should be more important (or should take precedence) over what our children say, do, think, and feel. But if we will take an extra moment and consider not only what our children might be saying, doing, thinking, and feeling but also why, then we will gain something far more important than control or good behavior or compliance or respect or cooperation. We gain understanding. And it is this understanding that makes the way for wisdom to come and grow in our hearts and minds. If we will choose understanding over dominance, then we will find that we will have less of a need for over-bearing-ness because our understanding will soften our hearts as well as our children’s.